How to cope when you are judged because of pain or illness. Yellow flowers.

How To Cope When You Are Feeling Judged

People who live with chronic pain or a chronic illness are often put under scrutiny. Most have felt judged at some time in their lives. Being Judged is Demoralising Friends, families, colleagues, doctors, social security and even strangers can all be guilty of judging people who live with chronic pain or illness. It's not helpful …

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How to be Positive When Living With Pain

It can be extremely difficult living with chronic pain. It's very easy to become down and despondent at times and focus only on the negativity of the situation. Can Positivity Help Pain? We need to be honest about our pain and say how we feel at times. But can being more positive actually help our …

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There is more to chronic pain than just pain

There is More to Chronic Pain Than Just Pain

Most people understand pain. Whether it's from an occasional headache, a broken leg or a stubbed toe, most people understand what pain feels like. But chronic pain? Not everyone will understand what that is like. When does pain become chronic? Chronic pain is defined by NHS Inform as pain that carries on for longer than …

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What is Life Like with Chronic Pain?

If you read my distractions post, you'll know I'm keen on A - Zs, so I decided to make an A - Z to describe life with chronic pain. Counteracting Negatives with Positives Part way through, I realised that the A - Z was quite negative, and since I prefer a positive outlook I tried …

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Ill Health Retirement After Years of Struggling to Work

Very often, people with ill health or disability struggle to work and have to face early retirement. It’s not a decision that anyone takes lightly. My Own Struggle I had to take early retirement through ill health 25 years ago, in 1994.I didn't want to take sick leave due to my pain, but at the …

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Feeling Like A Failure Was One of My Failings

If someone is well off, has a fancy car and a five bedroomed house in a nice area, they're considered successful. If they have fulfilled their hopes and dreams, they're considered successful. Qualifications, careers, acquired wealth, sporting victories and acting awards can all measure a person's success. But when people live with chronic pain or …

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Silent Symptoms of Chronic Illness – Loneliness and Isolation

Living with chronic illness of any kind is difficult. Obviously, the physical symptoms are difficult to cope with. There are often lots of emotional symptoms to deal with too, like depression, grief, guilt, stress and anxiety. But there are two other symptoms which are often overlooked - loneliness and isolation. Those symptoms can have a …

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How to support someone who has an invisible illness

Some illnesses are obvious to the naked eye. If someone is hobbling around with a plaster cast on their leg, we can tell they have a broken leg. If they have misshapen fingers, we can normally presume that they have painful arthritis.But so many people have health conditions which can’t be seen. Those conditions are …

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How to Cope with Medication Side Effects

For the majority of people with chronic health problems, medication is a necessity. But unfortunately, medication often comes with side effects. Some can ease off after a short adjustment period, but sadly, some like to linger. We often get used to living with them, but some side effects are too difficult to cope with and …

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